Thursday, June 16, 2016

A Family Summer Perspective

It's that time of year again. School has wrapped up and we are yearning for a break from busy school schedules. Summer presents a new type of busy, and one we really enjoy at first but then grow weary of towards the end. It's always fun to see how much each child grows and matures over the summer. Our son grew two inches one summer and ate us out of house and home!

This year makes my 20th summer being a mom! It hardly seems possible as time has truly flown by. We've had slow summers, summer's full of moving to a different state, summers full of traveling to visit family across the country, summer weddings to attend and summers full of camps for the kids.

Looking back, I can pinpoint which summers were the best...and it had nothing to do with the activities we took part in. The BEST summers were when my husband and I took time to sit back and truly reflect on our family. Not just the basic daily life, but how we were functioning as a family.

We asked deep questions like:

How is our routine?
How are our attitudes toward each other?
Do any of us have any bad habits that need tweaking?
Is there some activity we need to be doing more of as a family?
Are there any activities that need to stop all together?
How are we managing our time?

Normally, we can pinpoint areas that need improvement and the solutions are relatively easy. But our reflections of our family do not stop there. A wise seasoned mom one gave me some priceless advise that we added to our summer discussion:

What do we want our family to look like and how do we get there?

This seems complex ~ but really, is your family turning out the way you'd always hoped that it would be? This might seem unattainable, but is it?


Thankfully for us, we had some great families from our church modeling some excellent routines and habits within their family. It isn't hard to look around and see who is managing well and who isn't.  I'm not suggesting comparison at all. We are all unique and comparing is a filthy trap that no one should ever partake in. We were able to pick and choose which habits and traits we wanted for our family. Over time we were able to work all together to bring these important changes to fruition.

Today I encourage you to take the time this summer to sit back, be quiet and take a good look at your family. Pray about it. Ponder it in your heart. Pray some more. Ask the Lord to show you what His best is for your family.

Guarantee: This will be the best thing you can possibly do this summer!!

Isaiah 43:19

This is what God says, the God who builds a road right through the ocean, who carves a path through pounding waves, The God who summons horses and chariots and armies— they lie down and then can’t get up; they’re snuffed out like so many candles: “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands. Wild animals will say ‘Thank you!’ —the coyotes and the buzzards— Because I provided water in the desert, rivers through the sun-baked earth, Drinking water for the people I chose, the people I made especially for myself, a people custom-made to praise me.
Wednesday, April 13, 2016



I was regretting the past 
And fearing the future. 
Suddenly my Lord was speaking:

“My name is I Am.” He paused. 
I waited. He continued,
When you live in the past 
With its mistakes and regrets, 
It is hard. I am not there, 
My name is not I WAS”.

When you live in the future 
With its problems and fears, 
It is hard. I am not there. 
My name is not I WILL BE.

When you live in this moment, 
It is not hard. I am here. 
My name is I AM. 

~Helen Mallicoat
Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Bloom Where You Are Planted

One Year.

One year since I've had the presence of mind to write a blog post.

I shutter to think of all that we were forced to endure over this past year, but can honestly say we are better off now regardless of all of the turmoil.

What started as a corporate transfer turned into a dreadful disaster. All because of one hot headed board chairman. One selfish greedy person impacted our family in ways HE could care less about.

Little did we know that in Rhode Island, your employer can get rid of you for any reason and not have to give an explanation. It is called an "At Will" employment law in the state and they can employ you or change their mind about your employment without giving any reasons as to why you are hired or fired. Unsettling to say the least. The Rhode Island lawyers and judges take great pride in their "At Will" status and won't even hear a case that tests it's legalities. Not only that, but the average family in New England can't afford to take something like an "At Will" employment case to court.

This news of my husband's eliminated position with the Rhode Island company was delivered to us ON our moving day.

It took a long time for us to wrap our heads around such an abrupt change in our lives.

Thankfully, our family 500 miles away took us in temporarily until we could make a new plan.

Our faith in God, and the many prayers and help from our families and friends helped us through a very rough time.

We are not certain of many things in this life, but we ARE certain that God has a great plan in each of our lives. Our faith has been tested many times ~ but a peace that surpasses ALL understanding has encompassed our hearts and minds in a way like never before.

What we have learned:

Everyone has a choice to be bitter or to get better.

Lean on your spouse for support and make decisions together. Your wedding vows "for better or for worse" are biblical and are to be taken very seriously.

Consider other people's feelings before reacting to your own feelings.

The good guy doesn't always win.

There is always one bad egg in the batch.

Trust your gut feelings. Pray for the Lord's clarification. He works in mysterious ways.

Having faith in God and deeply rooted integrity trumps ALL. 

Make the best of every situation and bloom where you are planted. 

Be willing to learn something new everyday. 

The eyes of our children are watching us closely. Think and pray before you react.

Laughter IS the best medicine. 

Our family has recently settled in beautiful rural Georgia. Our story is still being written and our faith in God's great plan to unfold is bigger than ever. My plan is to get back into writing and maybe share some of the hair raising stories that have occurred over this past year. Some have suggested I write a book about it all. I'd rather not dwell on any of it. Blogging about a few key events is all the time I wish to give any of it. Blooming and spreading my roots in the right here and right now is a huge blessing to me. Lord willing.... I fully intend to bloom well.

For I am confident of this very thing, 
that He who began a good work in you 
will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. 
~Philippians 1:6